30 Years Old
Short Note: Recommended reading from Sam - Why Men are Never Depressed. It's fun. I don't wanna say it's TRUE. LOL.
In my previous post, Birds with No Feet, I mentioned that few of my high school mates might soon leave Malaysia for either working opportunities or further studies overseas.
This doesn't happen only to my high school mates, but my college mates as well.
I still keep in touch with only few college mates nowadays. To be specific, there are three others whom I meet regularly, and we are close since the first day we met, back in Dec 1999. All of us are working around Klang Valley nowadays.
Feng has been telling me about her plan to work-holiday in New Zealand (NZ). That day, she told me she has got the visa, and the date of departure has been decided to be 20/4/2008. According to her, the visa lasts for 6 months, and there is probability to extend the stay for another 3 months (so 9 months in total).
I'm not too sure about the details, because I've never done any research on that. When I was in Australia, NZ was so near but I've never thought of going. That time, I wished to visit some Asian countries, after being away from Asia for quite some time.
Not long after Feng told me about her confirmed departure, Yew told me the same. She quietly applied the same visa, and it was quietly being approved. She told me her departure date would be on 25/6/2008.
When reading her mail, I was asking in mind - why all people go to NZ this year?
My online buddy, CP, is also leaving for UK soon, for working holiday on 17/3/2008.
I do feel happy for them for getting the visa and opportunity. However, I also feel kinda sad because we will have less chance to meet and have fun together.
When Yew got online, I couldn't help but asked, WHY? Why you girls all go away when I'm back here? Do you know when you girls come back later, I might have to go off already? (I did not tell them my plan in details)
She told me... she wishes to experience something different prior to becoming 30.
That is understandable. Coz I'm the same. I'm taking my time to "experience" the working life here in Malaysia, now, at this moment. I just don't take the 30-year-old thingy into consideration.
30 years old. It's like an important milestone in the life of majority, which people think, by this day, there should be certain level of achievements that we can be proud of in our life.
If my memory serves me right, the famous Japanese writer, Haruki Murakami (村上春树), also wrote the famous book of him, Norwegian Wood (挪威的森林), due to having the determination of doing something special before he turned 30.
It could really be a strong drive in life. Do you agree?
For you, what do you think about the age of 30?
What you wish you have accomplished by then?
If you are now 30+, are you satisfied with your life, or do you set 40 as the coming major milestone?
I'm really curious to know how you guys think.
This doesn't happen only to my high school mates, but my college mates as well.
I still keep in touch with only few college mates nowadays. To be specific, there are three others whom I meet regularly, and we are close since the first day we met, back in Dec 1999. All of us are working around Klang Valley nowadays.
Can you see its feet?
Feng has been telling me about her plan to work-holiday in New Zealand (NZ). That day, she told me she has got the visa, and the date of departure has been decided to be 20/4/2008. According to her, the visa lasts for 6 months, and there is probability to extend the stay for another 3 months (so 9 months in total).
I'm not too sure about the details, because I've never done any research on that. When I was in Australia, NZ was so near but I've never thought of going. That time, I wished to visit some Asian countries, after being away from Asia for quite some time.
Not long after Feng told me about her confirmed departure, Yew told me the same. She quietly applied the same visa, and it was quietly being approved. She told me her departure date would be on 25/6/2008.
When reading her mail, I was asking in mind - why all people go to NZ this year?
My online buddy, CP, is also leaving for UK soon, for working holiday on 17/3/2008.
Photos in this post are all from CP.
I do feel happy for them for getting the visa and opportunity. However, I also feel kinda sad because we will have less chance to meet and have fun together.
When Yew got online, I couldn't help but asked, WHY? Why you girls all go away when I'm back here? Do you know when you girls come back later, I might have to go off already? (I did not tell them my plan in details)
She told me... she wishes to experience something different prior to becoming 30.
That is understandable. Coz I'm the same. I'm taking my time to "experience" the working life here in Malaysia, now, at this moment. I just don't take the 30-year-old thingy into consideration.
30 years old. It's like an important milestone in the life of majority, which people think, by this day, there should be certain level of achievements that we can be proud of in our life.
If my memory serves me right, the famous Japanese writer, Haruki Murakami (村上春树), also wrote the famous book of him, Norwegian Wood (挪威的森林), due to having the determination of doing something special before he turned 30.
It could really be a strong drive in life. Do you agree?
Soaring?
For you, what do you think about the age of 30?
What you wish you have accomplished by then?
If you are now 30+, are you satisfied with your life, or do you set 40 as the coming major milestone?
I'm really curious to know how you guys think.
13 comments:
Confession of the day. I hit the golden 30 this year.. lol
I won't say I am satisfied with life cause I don't believe that we should ever be satisfied with what we already have. We set goals in life and when we do achieve it, we set higher goals to move us forward.
But I would say i am content with my life so far. :)
Frankly, the 30 year-0ld thing has strongly came up my mind expecially during the CNY when it's a time to look back and determine at least something to achieve in this year... and suddenly realize i have left so little time to at least craft something significant in my diary as "something before 30 years-old"... and i start to panic.End up... i push myself more to make more move & DECISION in finding a way to the LIFE that I WANT.
其实，对我来说，自己也是想要赶在30岁前实现/追寻其他的东西。
我不懂30岁后是怎样的心情，但我可以肯定的是，冒险的心情会少一点，想要的安定会多一点。
所以还是趁30岁之前不顾一切。
如果人平均活到70岁，30岁可以算是一个迈向老/死亡的起点。
(told me via MSN messenger)
It's a year for another great journey..cheers.:)
I like this post of yours. Somehow you told what I wanna tell. Also, I like ch's "所以还是趁30岁之前不顾一切。"
chee hoe, what you said correspondences with the Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs... ^_^
"We set goals in life and when we do achieve it, we set higher goals to move us forward."
yi, seems like the 30-year-old thingy also has an effect on you :) for us, few more years to get there. hope you will reach that stage with enough achievements.
anson, you are a positive one. you only look forward.
一直以为我已经是一个想太多的人，哪知翠霞想的比我还多。
“如果人平均活到70岁，30岁可以算是一个迈向老/死亡的起点。”
我真的没有想过这点。迈向年老或死亡的起点，真的有点悲。
还没看到一个已过30的人怎么说。你们在哪儿？？？
well i'm 32 and here's my thought, however note that i have been through quite a lot so it may be different from any other 30s folks.
Age is really irrelevant in life but rather experience counts. As you have more experience with life in overall aspects, you tend to be more assured of yourself and will start to see what you want to accomplish in life.
People sett goals in life according to age, such as career by 30, marriage by 30, etc, because of social expectations- "30 is almost half life cycle" or "30 is the age to settle to settle down" or "that's what everyone else will do" or "what'd the family think", etc.
So realistically, setting goal by age 30 is practical and encouraging I'd say, after all, we do live in a world comprised of others. However if the 'reality' is of minimal concern of you, then age is not the factor.
As for me, I do set goals and look forward to 40, but I did not set goals for my 30 - "it just happened" as I just had the craziest 4 years in my life.
Haan: crazy till forgot about the arrival of 30 and it just happened to suddenly come to u hoh??
Sam: yea, u can say i have the 'realization' after 30.
Haan: so did u feel u missed something at that time?
Sam: "History does not crawl, it jumps", so is wisdom.. sometimes..
Sam: actually, i think i did something foolish because of it
Sam: what i mean is, if u didnt set goal for 30, when it hits u, there'll be plenty of chances to remind u of it
Sam: then u may get panic, and sometimes foolishness can lead to crazy act
Sam: anyway, in short, no goals, but when it happens, it may have impact on ur perspective
Sam: i guess i didnt express it well enough in the blog, but it takes time to organize my thoughts. so u can see my comment is like an 'advice' haha
Haan: no problem.. it's a long thought comment which i really appreciate
(excerpt from our messenger chat)
我已经当自己３０岁了。。。
只是一直认为自己的收入不高而已。。。
在努力中， 希望我的收入和年龄一直增加。
thats only 1 goal before i m 30. gotta travel oversea with my gf or maybe wife that time. lolz.
ChrisO: age is just a number
ChrisO: that's how i see most things
ChrisO: it's not like i won't be allowed to work in the UK or the US when i'm 31
ChrisO: or go traveling
ChrisO: and it doesn't mean that if i travel the world at 27, it's going to be much better than if i do it at 37
ChrisO: sometimes not so, because u don't know as much, don't appreciate as much
ChrisO: depends what the person is looking for in their life
ChrisO: excitement, security, love, money, etc etc
haan: hmm... i think if we worry too much sometimes.. we might not live now well... but if we don't have any target... we might also be wasting our life unknowingly
ChrisO: the best targets are the ones u don't think about everyday
ChrisO: e.g, with mine, i don't think about which girl i'd want to marry, or which house i want to buy
ChrisO: but i do know that eventually i'd like to buy a house and marry a nice girl
ChrisO: it's a goal, i know on a general level how to get there (i.e meet a girl, or save money, etc etc), but not the exact path
haan: hmm.. maybe sometimes i really think too much
ChrisO: it's not a bad thing
ChrisO: just so long as the thoughts inspire than depress u...
[messenger chat between Chris Ong and I]
After 20, I always thought time flies, and indeed it is. Depends on people, some would set a milestone, like they want to become xxx before 30 or tour the world etc.
I think you just need to treasure every moment, do the things like this is your only chance to do it. Then, no matter which age you are at, you can be proud of yourself.
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