Last night I failed a test.
Actually I left office and arrived at the venue in good mood, but started to play badminton very unhappily.
Coz people were late. People had been late for EVERY week, for AT LEAST 20 minutes each time (3 times make up an hour). When all the other five courts had had players starting their session, ours was still nobody. The only somebody was me, sitting there, maybe making some calls to check their location (on the way or still in office), or just allowing the bad thoughts to grow.
Honestly, sometimes the question mark is really HUGE. Why the people from Puchong, Cheras and Shah Alam could arrive on time, but those working in Serdang cannot? (The venue of playing is in Serdang)
Once, I arrived and only Seng Seng (works in Puchong, went back to Kajang to get his badminton stuff) was there. He had shuttlecock so we could play first. When the others arrived, we were already sweating and had consumed certain amount of energy.
I remembered that on the same day, at about 8:50pm (still 10 minutes left), both of us were on one side of the court, thinking to play the last game, but the rest were pushing each other to make up another team. Finally both of us got little annoyed and said, go back la, no need to play anymore.
Another time, someone and I arrived, but the one keeping the shuttlecocks was late. The uncle playing at the next court even gave us 2 shuttlecocks so that we could start first. He said, "play first la, don't waste time."
It has been a lot of times, I wanted to tell Uncle Lim, "Don't be too late. Even a buddha will be angry, and I'm not a buddha." However, until now, I never say that.
Enough is enough. Finally I could not control myself last night.
I actually wanted to leave before playing. But I held on till 8:30pm (formal start time is 7pm), after 2 games and was playing the 3rd. I tried to get rid of my anger by laughing, making fun with them. At the end, all the actions were still useless. When playing the 3rd game, I told them I did not want to play anymore, then packed my stuff and left the place.
I even spoke what I had been suppressing myself from saying for months. I said I hate partnering with one of them!!! Who knows being the opponent is even disgusting!!! So I left. (no question regarding this para, ok?)
While driving home, I actually did not know why could I get so pissed. All this while, I had been able to always ask myself to see it as a trivial matter, and keep telling myself that, any energy wasted to get angry does not really worth it.
Being late is not a good habit - this concept will never change in my mind. Some people might wonder why I take it so seriously. Even during the uni time, when going for grocery shopping during weekend, Mr Tan knew I didn't like others being late. Else, I'd call and ask, have you finished putting on all your makeups? Yes, I'm that sarcastic, in the past, nowadays and future.
I feel punctuality is even more important nowadays, when we work. Seems like they do not think the same.
Of course, a lot of excuses can always be given for being late. Then I'd like to ask - will you be late for a flight? For the more important stuff, you'll make sure you won't be late, and you are able to be on time! Right???
In a nutshell, being late is not something forced to be, it is a choice.
If you THINK you cannot be punctual, then you definitely won't be there on time.
Honestly, I'm not very free at work also. I always think I want to go badminton on Tuesday night, so I can do it every week, even though I've left the previous job in Serdang for 7 months. For a truly busy Tuesday, I'd just shorten the lunch time, or continue the tasks at night, after the badminton session.
"It's often the will that drives your action." This is what I'd like to tell them, in a polite manner, for sure.
P/S: I don't hate them. I'm just telling the fact - I dislike them being late every week. Even though Uncle Lim called just now, I still picked up the phone and talked to him.
Actually I left office and arrived at the venue in good mood, but started to play badminton very unhappily.
Coz people were late. People had been late for EVERY week, for AT LEAST 20 minutes each time (3 times make up an hour). When all the other five courts had had players starting their session, ours was still nobody. The only somebody was me, sitting there, maybe making some calls to check their location (on the way or still in office), or just allowing the bad thoughts to grow.
Honestly, sometimes the question mark is really HUGE. Why the people from Puchong, Cheras and Shah Alam could arrive on time, but those working in Serdang cannot? (The venue of playing is in Serdang)
Once, I arrived and only Seng Seng (works in Puchong, went back to Kajang to get his badminton stuff) was there. He had shuttlecock so we could play first. When the others arrived, we were already sweating and had consumed certain amount of energy.
I remembered that on the same day, at about 8:50pm (still 10 minutes left), both of us were on one side of the court, thinking to play the last game, but the rest were pushing each other to make up another team. Finally both of us got little annoyed and said, go back la, no need to play anymore.
Another time, someone and I arrived, but the one keeping the shuttlecocks was late. The uncle playing at the next court even gave us 2 shuttlecocks so that we could start first. He said, "play first la, don't waste time."
It has been a lot of times, I wanted to tell Uncle Lim, "Don't be too late. Even a buddha will be angry, and I'm not a buddha." However, until now, I never say that.
Enough is enough. Finally I could not control myself last night.
I actually wanted to leave before playing. But I held on till 8:30pm (formal start time is 7pm), after 2 games and was playing the 3rd. I tried to get rid of my anger by laughing, making fun with them. At the end, all the actions were still useless. When playing the 3rd game, I told them I did not want to play anymore, then packed my stuff and left the place.
I even spoke what I had been suppressing myself from saying for months. I said I hate partnering with one of them!!! Who knows being the opponent is even disgusting!!! So I left. (no question regarding this para, ok?)
While driving home, I actually did not know why could I get so pissed. All this while, I had been able to always ask myself to see it as a trivial matter, and keep telling myself that, any energy wasted to get angry does not really worth it.
Being late is not a good habit - this concept will never change in my mind. Some people might wonder why I take it so seriously. Even during the uni time, when going for grocery shopping during weekend, Mr Tan knew I didn't like others being late. Else, I'd call and ask, have you finished putting on all your makeups? Yes, I'm that sarcastic, in the past, nowadays and future.
I feel punctuality is even more important nowadays, when we work. Seems like they do not think the same.
Of course, a lot of excuses can always be given for being late. Then I'd like to ask - will you be late for a flight? For the more important stuff, you'll make sure you won't be late, and you are able to be on time! Right???
In a nutshell, being late is not something forced to be, it is a choice.
If you THINK you cannot be punctual, then you definitely won't be there on time.
Honestly, I'm not very free at work also. I always think I want to go badminton on Tuesday night, so I can do it every week, even though I've left the previous job in Serdang for 7 months. For a truly busy Tuesday, I'd just shorten the lunch time, or continue the tasks at night, after the badminton session.
"It's often the will that drives your action." This is what I'd like to tell them, in a polite manner, for sure.
P/S: I don't hate them. I'm just telling the fact - I dislike them being late every week. Even though Uncle Lim called just now, I still picked up the phone and talked to him.
15 comments:
Ya, should be fuming on the matter instead of the individual. But, bear in mind, there are human being who grounds the late situation. Sometimes you should voice out (soft tone) to them rather than agree to their habit. : )
if i agree, i won't have written this post, right?
are they reading your blog ? hehehe, maybe this is the indirect way to communicate your displeasure :P
Yes, they are no good. They should tell you early, that the management had given order they have to work OT and the earliest time they can leave is 7pm.
wow, u must be fuming! take it cool..
act i too hate late ppl
make yr statement, and see their response. if they dont change, maybe change the timing... or be late yrself. think of it this way, if they say 7 mean 8, then ill come at 8. and whenever i make appt with them, if ill add the extra hour.
hope it helps :)
*btw, nice to know u playing badminton - gd workout :)
being angry can be viewed as a way of triggering higher level of metabolism too :) it happens once in awhile.. it's a need haha
wow,cool.calm down.
Yes,you are right,it is a choice.but people usually don't.
No point we shouting or yelling at them when they really can't change their mindset,it still be the same.
I used to have a football kaki who is always late at least half an hour,everytime,it last 2 years until today and still counting.but we are expected he will do so.
keep quiet? this is not my style :) coz i cannot accept no improvement.
Some people just can't grasp the concept of time, and that time is important to others, if not to them.
They just do not bother, or more accurately, do not WANT to bother. These kind of people need to be late for something really important and then they'll know.
I think if it was me, I'd have left the court already... You're real patient... ;P
coz i take the session seriously. apart from simply exercise, that's the only chance for me to meet my ex-colleagues every week. maybe they don't think the same.
perhaps i should also re-consider if i should treat that "with heart".
Same thing happened to me, and I straight away said: "我不喜欢人家迟到的啰"
Increase metabolism with anger? That's totally wrong. It will eventually kill your body cells and generate poisonous hormons and might shorten your life.
You should find a better way to let them know about it. No matter what methods you use, your content can sound like this, "Late is same as murdering. My time is wasted by you and it's gone forever. And you don't have the ability to pay me back. You are killing me and make my life shorter."
Being angry is also an act of killing yourself. Since we know our life is limited, why not we spend every second happily? And with a calm emotion, we can see something clearer and make wiser decisions.
Just my opinion. Thanks
Kun, I already said that, in various ways, many many times. I'm actually thinking if I should continue going for badminton. Haven't got an answer yet. You know there is other "reason".
Colin, is that true? anger leads to death? Anyway, even without writing this post, I think I've told them my feeling, every week. Perhaps it's time for me to re-consider to quit. It was my own choice to go there, meet them, and invite all these unhappiness. I'm the one to be blamed.
Yes, anger generates poisonous toxin. There was a story about a mother feed her milk to a new born baby, at the same time she quarreled with her husband, and finally the baby had milk poisoning and died because the mother’s body generate toxin because of anger.
In Chinese, there is also a word called Qi4Si3, it means “Die because of Anger”. We can see a lot case studies in the dramas or movies on how people Qi4Si3.
Friendship and Time are both priceless.
both priceless.. then what's the balancing point? actually I'm still thinking - go or not. meanwhile, another question arises:
when we can't make a decision, should we do or not do? there is no 3rd choice. haiz...
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