Finally, I finished reading the book "Eat, Pray, Love" on this date, 19 March 2011. After taking a vegetarian meal as breakfast, read today's newspaper, did some online research about the northeast areas of Urumqi, I took up this book again on this rainy day.
Yesterday, I was just talking to my good friend about this book. I asked, do you know in Bali, how the people deal with an issue where the male is unfertilized, causing his wife unable to get pregnant? I then elaborated what I've read from the book. Yes, that's unbelievable but this is still happening in today's society, at somewhere not too far from where we are staying.
The author, Elizabeth Gilbert (Liz) writes about her search for everything across Italy, India and Indonesia, in this book. In the last chapter (108), it's great to see these statement from her:
Since I was last here, I've circled the world, settled my divorce, survived my final separation from David, erased all mood-altering medications from my system, learned to speak a new language, sat upon God's palm for a few unforgettable moments in India, studied at the feet of an Indonesian medicine man and purchased a home for a family who sorely needed a place to live. I am happy and healthy and balanced.
I'm very glad to read such a beautiful ending.
I used to be on a similar trip too, but of course, mine was very much "not-worth-to-mention" compared to hers. I didn't meditate everyday, I didn't go to countries in different continents. That was just my self-claimed "working holiday across NZ and AU", where eventually, my working holiday visa was never utilized, but I did work and earn back all my traveling expenses :D
The journey was embarked in a mood filled with disappointments with my own life, having a lot of questions unanswered in mind. Went to a country that was new to me, making myself busy with traveling, driving, photography etc everyday; then went back to a country I used to stay. Once I reached back the places I used to live in the past (Toowoomba, Sydney), I realized that I've never made a wrong decision. Because, if I were to make the same decision again, my selection would still not change. Furthermore, by talking to my friends who have been living abroad for years, I was pretty confident with the "answers".

Not sure about others, but for myself, I strongly believe this kind of journey is helpful to individuals. I do not tend to possess a lot of things especially big-sized assets, as everything is gone in split second when a nature disaster hits; whilst various experiences we undergo would contribute to our self-growth. I do not pursue the kind of life where most people deem to be "normal". For me, I just know, I wish to pursue what I love in my life, and what I love could be a place, a thought, a style etc. There is no way for me to accept something I do not love from my bottom heart, but just to demonstrate to others that I'm "normal", still following the standard flow of life.
"Traveling is the great true love of my life. I have always felt, ever since I was sixteen years old and first went to Russia with my saved-up babysitting money, that to travel is worth any cost or sacrifice. I am loyal and constant in my love for travel, as I have not always been loyal and constant in my other loves. I feel about travel the way a happy new mother feels about her impossible, colicky, restless newborn baby - I just don't care what it puts me through. Because I adore it. Because it's mine. Because it looks exactly like me. It can barf all over me if it wants to - I just don't care."
By reading the above paragraph by Liz, it's hard for me not to love her writing. Meanwhile, the following are the questions which a lot of people tend to ask but heck, please, please do not apply your XXX (a bad word here) SOP thinking onto others who do not embrace them!
"He asks why I can't keep a relationship going, why I ruined my marriage, why I messed things up with every man I've even been with. He asks me where I was the night I turned thirty, and why things have gone so sour since then. He asked why I can't get my act together, and why I'm not at home living in a nice house and raising nice children like any respectable woman my age should be. He asks why, exactly, I think I deserve a vacation in Rome when I've made such a rubble of my life. He asked me where I think I'll end up in my old age, if I keep living this way."
I remember that after I came back from my AU-NZ trip and before getting a job offer, I stayed at home everyday. Though having no income, I was living good. The stress did not actually come from financial worry, but more about how the people around think of me. I enjoyed reading books at home everyday, looking into dictionary for each word that is new to me; but the auntie cleaner helping my relative family next door came and "provided me her kindest advice", saying that YOU CAN'T BE LIVING LIKE THIS, YOU SHOULD GO AND LOOK FOR A JOB.
This made me absolutely pissed. I don't understand why people tend to be busy body to CARE about others they don't actually know, some more wanting to APPLY their personal standards onto other's life. Shouldn't that enough for you to just apply your standard onto yourself? I bet she would also faint if she reads the following:
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The beauty of doing nothing is the goal of all your work, the final accomplishment for which you are most highly congratulated. The more exquisitely and delightfully you can do nothing, the higher your life's achievement." Once, I really wished to reply to the auntie by saying - I'VE A LOT OF MONEY IN BANK. I CAN LIVE WITHOUT A JOB. DO YOU HAVE ANY PROBLEM WITH THIS? Of course, I didn't, therefore I use the word "wished" here.
I've marked a lot of sentences which I love (at first sight) in the book - too many for me to share here. After reading the book, am now longing to watch the movie, to see how different/similar they are.
Before I end, allow me to share the last one:
"The search for contentment is not merely a self-preserving and self-benefiting act, but also a generous gift to the world. Clearing out all your misery gets you out of the way. You cease being an obstacle, not only to yourself but to anyone else. Only then are you free to serve and enjoy other people."
If you want to read the book, you are welcomed to come to me :)
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